This raw mom moment is brought to you by one of my dear friends.
"As my kids get older, I feel I have a lot more of those "mom fail" moments. I see how they leave the more dependent stages in their lives and become more independent from my self and my husband. One thing we talk a lot about is kindness and always standing up for yourself and others. I hope they can be caring and kind adults one day. But some days you wondering if I am doing a good enough job. I watch my kids do wonderful kind things all the time and my heart is full!
But then there are moments, where I watch my three children, ages 11, 7 and 4 and how they treat each other sometimes. They can fight like cats and dogs and say the most horrible things to each other. My youngest loves to sing and sing loud and repeat lines over and over again, as most 4 year olds. My 7 year old gets so annoyed with her and lately likes to say things like, "I wish you weren't born!" or "I wish someone would come and kill you!" To me, these words are like knives in my heart and I wonder if I get through to her when I tell her how awful these words are and how she would really feel if her sister was gone forever.
I remind myself that I have siblings that I fought with too. I just hope one day these sibling will appreciate each other and not take for granted this life they are given. It is an ongoing struggle to keep the siblings for strangling each other! But then there are moments that they take my breath away. I know deep down they will always love each other, but hope they will grow up kind!"
Do you ask yourself the same question? "Am I doing a good job raising my kids?", "Am I doing a good job period"? I know I have. All we want is for our children to grow up to be good people. Parenting is tough and I think we have all had those doubts.
When that "negative Nelly" or what my friend Danielle calls "the itty bitty shitty committee" comes a knocking and try's to tell you that you're not good enough or not doing a good job, feel her and then take her down by taking a yin shape. Take a Supported Fish shape to open up your heart. Allow that love energy to flow within you and allow that negative talk to dissipate.
A mamas yin practice: Place a bolster, rolled up blanket or block directly under your shoulders and another prop under your head if needed. Lie back ensuring that your shoulders and chest are open and you feel supported. Find a comfortable position for your arms. Relax your legs—knees can be bent or straight. Find your shape, feel and breathe. Hold for 3-5 minutes. Longer if you like.