Mamas, who else feels they need to be a supermom? Where does this come from? Why do we feel that asking for help is a weakness? I really enjoyed a post I read recently by a fellow mom, who's passion is to share experiences and help others know they are not alone in their struggles. With permission, I share with you Karri-ann's real and raw talk with moms.
"It's okay if the only thing you did today was breathe.
I am not sure where the pressure comes from to be productive. Is it something we are taught from a young age? And if so, by who? Family? Parents? Society? Friends? Teachers? Movies? Is it something we think we need to do when we become adults?
I am not sure where it started for me. But I do know somewhere along the way I have internalized this obsessive need to prove my worth every day.
If I just do this and this and this and this, then I can do...this?
Then I have justified my existence. But if I don't do these things, then what?
If I just move something in my house to a different spot in my house. If I just make a phone call. If I make a batch of cookies. If I pay a bill. Then my life makes sense.
Why is that? Why can't I just stare out the window for hours and hours? Does that make me a bad human?
Can't I just ignore my kid's' millionth request for a snack and make them figure it out for themselves? Does that make me a bad mom?
Really, I just want to sit here and breathe. It is all I can do some days.
Some days, I am on fire. Bathrooms cleaned by 9 am. Emails and texts replied to within minutes of receiving them. Beds made. Books read. Dishes done.
And then there are days when I can't do anything other than the bare basic necessities. Like make myself a cup of coffee and make a box of pasta for my kids for lunch.
Those days I just crawl into myself and find peace and rest where I can.
I am learning to trust myself, to be kind and gentle. I roll with the energy when I have it. I am grateful for it. I make the most of it.
And then I am learning to be loving towards myself when it feels like the only thing I can do that day, is breathe."
~ Karri-ann Flater
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